So, you haven’t started dating yet. Perhaps you are a new bachelor looking for love, or it is just that you have never had any interest up until now. Either way, we are here to help you gain the confidence to try; here is some ways that might help you overcome your feelings regarding being new to dating.
Accept the fact that you’re inexperienced
Before you begin dating, acknowledge the fact that you do not have any experience with dating. You do not know the ins and outs of the dating game, and so you become anxious to initiate a relationship and are unwilling to show yourself off to the dating masses. However, do you want to know something? What you are feeling right now, that is okay! After all, every one of us has to start somewhere. No one has ever entered the dating game knowing what to do and what not to do.
Some people hire escorts as a way to learn how to socialize with women, and even people who have gone out on multiple dates still find themselves learning new things on the way. Don’t let your feelings influence your attitude towards others, because they will pick up on that – women especially.
Learn to Go Beyond your Comfort Zone
So now, you’ve accepted your feelings, but it’s not over yet. Now it is time for you to learn how to behave when you start dating. First off, limit yourself from making needless excuses when making mistakes. It is ok to not have any experience in, say, kissing or being open about yourself; you will adapt and grow as a person as you continue on with your relationships. Take some responsibility and make the effort to improve on your inadequacies by doing some research. Don’t get stuck in your comfort zone; gain the confidence to go beyond.
Don’t let society pressure you; be patient
Sometimes it can feel like despite making the effort to change yourself for the better that no one is there to appreciate it and find you dateable. It is so disheartening to feel ignored and unloved that you may find yourself lashing out and attacking those who are lucky to have partners. Your feelings go unrequited, and as a result, perhaps you feel entitled to getting a girl because you did all the hard work. Do not fall into this mindset.
Due to the negative spread of toxic masculinity into society, many men feel pressured into the idea that getting a girlfriend and having physical and sexual pleasure with them is what defines them of being a man; because you are inexperienced, you feel less of a man as a result.
However, this is not true. Being a man is all about being you; you should not let those who treat women like they’re all escorts dictate what you should be. Be patient, even if it seems like nothing is happening. It can be frustrating, yes, but do not get discouraged.
In Conclusion
Being inexperienced in dating can feel shackling; everyone else gets to find love while you are wallowing in loneliness. But you shouldn’t have to feel that way; it is your insecurities that are holding you back. Do not let it consume you, and instead take your time to focus on learning; dates will come to those who wait.